High Conflict Therapy
I help couples who have frequent intense and hurtful fights identify, break, and change their escalation patterns
Signs you are in a
High Conflict Relationship
You and your partner experience fights that escalate quickly and cut deep.
One or both of you get emotionally overwhelmed and lose control of what you're saying and/or doing.
There are often harsh and hurtful comments made and/or unacceptable behaviors that make it difficult to get over fights once they end.
Are these patterns making you question if your relationship can make it?
Attachment theory tells us the way we attach to significant people in our lives is developed in moments of conflict not when everything is good, so of course you are experiencing distress and left questioning your relationship after these explosive moments of conflict.
But There’s a Way Through This Together
What if disagreements didn't have to end in a full blown argument? What if they could be opportunities to gain understanding, grow closer, to rediscover each other in a new, deeper way?
There are healthy ways to move through conflict, fight fair, and communicate with love.
I am here to guide you—through the overwhelm, through the doubts, through the unknowns—towards a future where you and your partner are no longer caught in harmful escalation patterns but thriving through conflict. With the right tools, you can use this time to create a relationship grounded in love, respect, and true partnership.
Couples Counseling: Increasing Emotional Safety
Imagine a space where both of you are seen, heard, and understood—not just in the ways you’re struggling but in the essence of who you are. Couples counseling offers just that—a place of safety, where a skilled, unbiased mediator helps you both express your experiences without fear of judgment.
Here, you’ll learn how to:
Listen with the intent to understand, not respond
Communicate your needs, desires, and disappointments without blame or defensiveness
Cultivate compassion, vulnerability, and connection in the midst of chaos
These practices don’t just resolve conflict—they rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and bring you back to each other. They help you communicate in ways that heal instead of hurt, creating a partnership that is truly supportive, balanced, and full of love.
High Conflict vs abuse
High conflict relationships are not the same as abusive relationships, but without context they can look similar. Abuse involves a pattern of control, coercion, and intimidation. If you feel afraid of your partner, couples therapy is not safe and can escalate the violence.
If you are unsure whether or not your relationship is abusive and feel safe asking your partner to attend couples therapy with you, I can assess whether couples counseling therapy might help.
If not, you seek therapy individually to receive support and resources. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is a good place to start if you suspect your relationship might be abusive and need help: 1-800-799-SAFE
What now?
I am dedicated to helping you change the way you fight.
Are you ready to break free from your harmful conflict cycle?
Take the first step towards a relationship based on equal respect and compassionate communication...
Observant Mind
Integrative Counseling
Therapy in Austin & Greater TX
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